The Japanese House - Maybe You're The Reason

Mum's Speech

Since Dad conducted the ceremony for the wedding, it fell to Mum to sublimate her desire to run into a corner and hide, and to instead stand up before everyone and do something she has always struggled to do: share her love and pride in her kids publicly.

With Fiona standing just behind her, providing her strong womanly presence, Mum did a wonderful job. She was measured, heartfelt, and honest. As always, her words a remarkably touching for me because of what she left unsaid.

Years ago she would never have spoken publicly like that. Those responsibilities would have fallen to (or been outright snatched) by Dad. It was wonderful to see her find the confidence to share herself so openly with a room full of strangers - albeit loving strangers.

Thanks Mum.

James and Lou, family and friends,

Well, this wonderful day has come and the sun came out!

It’s a pleasure to gather here with you on this happy day to celebrate James’ and Lou’s wedding.

We thought a quote from Frederick Buechner might be included in the wedding service. His writing has been important for James for a long time and has helped to shape who he is. Like Buechner, James’ story has been one of searching for the one he’s meant to be - a story of ‘longing to be at home’ within himself.

James’ search began within a loving family - he has been dearly loved by his parents, sister Fiona and extended families of Penders, Trues and Carews. 

His search for a vocation in the law took him to far-off places, such as Canada, Belgium and Paris, where he was welcomed and cared for by many lovely friends, some of whom are here today. And we thank you for travelling so far to honour your relationship with James and share his wedding day. 

James has always been at home in the world of music - I digress - when he was very small, he said he’d heard someone play a lovely instrument at school - a violin. I thought, that’s it! So James learnt the violin and because I can play the piano a bit, we were able to make music together.

And recently he has taken to writing comedy.

But today we see his ultimate home-coming, his search as Buechner says to be loved and to love, fulfilled in the union with his beautiful bride, Louise.

We welcome Lou warmly into our family and celebrate her many gifts and graces. It is wonderful for us to know James has such a loving companion as you live out the purpose of your lives together. 

James and Lou - John, Fiona, Peter and I honour your marriage and assure you of our continuing love and care throughout your lives together.

Blessings on you both.